What I did: went as my husband’s “+1” to an election night party, hosted by a cable news network, at the Fifth Avenue Empire Room, a rooftop lounge at 230 5th Avenue, in New York City.
What I did beforehand: voted, took the dogs for a sniffing walk, showered, tried to dry my hair, gave up on trying to dry my hair, put too much product in my hair, changed into jeans and a "Vagenda of Manocide" t-shirt, packed my party clothes into a suitcase, drove to town with a woman in a Land Rover tailgating me. When she turned for the highway, I could tell by the dark shadow that I had picked up another tailgater, now on the 30 mph approach to town where it is oh so tempting to go just a little faster. But I didn't go any faster, so when I realized my new tailgater was a local policewoman, I felt justified. I walked through town and saw the policewoman buying lunch, and I wanted to ask her if she voted and who she voted for, because I was still giddy and stupid and anxious with excitement.
On the train I worked on yesterday’s blog post on my phone, and when we pulled in to Grand Central I found myself surrounded by other women with overnight bags. They were all headed to hotels, too, but then they were headed to the Javits Center for Hillary Clinton’s election night shindig. I slipped going up the stairs.
What I wore: my mother loved dressing well and shopping and spent more time choosing what to wear than she ever would have wanted anyone to know. She had a perfectly organized custom closet as big as a bedroom. When she died, there were so many navy shoes and long, straight-ish skirts and knee-highs and slips in every color and interesting jackets of various lengths and creamy white blouses to wear under the interesting jackets. And unusual jewelry, of course, as well. I still have some, but not many, of my mother's clothes, but I do have a certain 90s-era off-white silk blouse which I've not worn more than once in the 11 1/2 years since my mother's death. I was thinking it should be my "white," since they were saying it's the color the suffragettes wore, and it seemed like it might work under my other pantsuit. I don’t normally pick out and try on an outfit the night before, but there I was, the night before election day, seeing if the pants from my other pantsuit fit well enough to wear. They did. I put on the blouse to see if it looked ok. It hangs out from under the jacket, but in a way that I liked more than I hated. When I took it off I discovered it was missing a button.
When I stopped crying about my haphazard sewing skills vs. mother's meticulous sewing skills and from stress about the election and then the realization that my mother would have loved HRC way more than I do and generally missing everything about my mother, I clipped one of the spare buttons from the inside of the blouse and sewed it on.
And so, to the election night party I wore a black Eileen Fisher tank top, the gray Hugo Boss pantsuit with flimsy, unusable beltloops and no pockets (not even too-shallow pockets), gorgeous and understated jewelry from my generous husband, my grandmother's square-faced Longines gold wristwatch, and an amethyst pin that belonged to another female relative and though my mother made a big deal about telling me who it came from, it was too long ago for me to remember. I also wore net knee-highs and the loafers with heels that I put pads into finally so my feet don't slide around.
|One of his co-workers complained that
there aren't any bad pictures of him
Who went with me: my husband, who made plain back in April that he thought the election might go badly, and whose paranoia, as I called it, was informed by his having escaped a totalitarian regime as a child, and his uncanny ability to predict everything.
How I got tickets: as the guest of the Bacon Provider, I was actually the only "+1."
Why I saw this show: I blithely said beforehand that I thought it would be fun either way. I genuinely believed that America would not elect a Russian-sponsored fascist.
"I know him. He's a liar. How is he getting these votes?"— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
"I dunno, I guess..."
"No. You don't understand. I know him."
Where I sat: if you were watching live results on the right cable channel, you saw us in the front row. At least one friend did.
Raise your hand if you're stress-eating— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Things that were not funny: at dinner, I botched the, "...And what do you do?" question again, but I made up for it by being somewhat ludicrously funny.
By 9:30 one of the marketing people from the cable news network (who had made it clear at dinner that she was repulsed by the orange, frothy fountain of racism candidate, and excited for America's first female President), announced cheerfully that the disastrous installation of a lying, bankruptcy-addicted, child-rapist as United States President would, in fact, be very good for cable news, what with the advertising sold to air during impeachment proceedings and all.
This is the worst show I've seen since I moved to New York— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
By 10 pm I started to be cold and miserable and when I went downstairs to find the coat check to retrieve our coats I got trapped in a party that wasn't ours and when a small mob of people crushed into an elevator, I finally saw the hall and found the gap in a black curtain leading to the event I had a wristband for, at which point I was waylaid by a security guy who thought I was headed out of bounds and I had to get all imperious in his face.
I found a party I can't go to and this bronze pussy pic.twitter.com/zvxxJfHLeY— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Things that were sad: by 10:30 I was ready to move away from the United States for the foreseeable future. The other guests who were sitting outside with us retreated to the party inside or left for home. Drunk, anxious bar patrons grumbled amongst themselves about the tray of extra cupcakes abandoned on our table. One guy came out of nowhere and asked me if he could take two. I told him they weren't mine to give away, but, ok, be quick about it. Others came. By the end, people weren't even asking; they were just taking.
Everyone else left and people started asking for the cupcakes. How could I say no? They weren't mine to give! pic.twitter.com/u195VomYsy— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Feeling wrecked. In my pantsuit. I hate everything and everyone.— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Things that were funny: when my father was in the ICU towards the end of his life, I realized that he had lost his sense of humor. This was how I knew he was dying. There is nothing funny about last night's election result.
America— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Your misogyny is kicking my ass
What it is: not a good day to be a person of color or LGBTQ. Or both.
Something I ate: steak and one cupcake.
|I violated this cupcake before I ate it.
Who should see it: look away, friends and readers abroad. It's going to get really ugly.
PEOPLE ARE SEEING ME FACE AND ASKING ME IF I'M OK— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
NO I AM NOT OK
What I saw on the way home: we spent the night in an upscale eurotrash boutique hotel because I had planned for a long night. I had multiple nightmares about crashing my car on the Saw Mill Parkway and woke with a migraine.
|He's reading about Stalin.
Outside it was just another bad, gray, Manhattan Wednesday morning. I followed a guy into the subway who was reading the big biography of Stalin I read when I was in business school. He was about halfway through. I let a flustered, old mustachioed woman cut in line ahead of me when I got a coffee and a glazed doughnut in Grand Central and commenced having a big, long, ugly, sniveling cry on the train. White men moved to another car.
Since we live in a terrible world— Hamsteria d'Relish (@hamsterRelish) November 9, 2016
Filled with terrible people
I am eating this on a train and it will make me feel terrible pic.twitter.com/oqaLlCgsif
As we arrived in the sleepy town of Katatonia, I stepped into the drizzle and looked into the dark windshield of an oncoming Audi SUV. I didn't pause in the slightest before entering the crosswalk, putting my life in the hands of some rich asshole.